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Away with emotional baggage

 


Ditch emotional baggage



We all carry hurts from the past with us. But breaking free from the past is a must if you want to live a happy and healthy life.
Ditching emotional baggage is easier said than done. Most of us cling to painful experiences to prevent them from happening again. By revisiting the pain of a failed relationship or friendship, you ‘prevent' another person from hurting you again. However, so many of us hold on to the past, nursing hurts and anxieties that they actually become a part of whom we are. We can't imagine life without its extra helping of long-held hurt and pain.
But the burden of emotional baggage grows and, before you know it, you are shackled down besides getting stuck in an emotional rut, negative thoughts that stick around past their sell-by date can have a detrimental effect on your body. Stress hormones are produced in our bodies as a response to grief, anger and feelings of failure. The state of your mind has an immediate and direct effect on the state of your body. Divorce, or the death of a loved one, has been shown to put people at greater risk of cancer, heart disease and high blood pressure and, more surprisingly, at greater risk of pneumonia and accidental death. Ready to let it go?
Here are our top tips:
• First, know that people are naturally resilient; they have resources and personal strength. You can handle whatever gets thrown your way.
• Make time to deal with emotional pain. Being busy all the time is a way of not confronting feelings.
• Make a choice to be happier. Your childhood may not have been perfect, but you don't have to suffer for the rest of your life. No one can give you closure but yourself.
• Look for emotional support. Make use of the networks of caring people around you. Alternatively, seek professional therapy to talk about difficult emotions.
• Don't wait for an apology or revenge. Dwelling on your grievances will never make you happy, only being willing to let them go can do that. Instead, focus on what makes you feel good about yourself. This will help you to regain your sense of personal power.
• Make sure that you get enough sleep, regular exercise and some sort of relaxation. Remember that by forgiving yourself and others for all that has happened in the past, you free up space in your mind to allow in new things. Getting rid of the baggage is not about forgetting – learning from experience makes us the people we are and informs our future selves. But by allowing yourself to forgive your own behavior as well as someone else's, you start to shake off the old ways and open yourself to new ones.
Courtesy Young & Trendy


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