Life's Warmer Side
A few months before I was born, my dad met a stranger who was new to our small Tennessee town.
From the beginning, Dad was fascinated with this enchanting newcomer, and soon invited him
to live with our family.
The stranger was quickly accepted and was around to welcome me into the world a few months
later. As I grew up I never questioned his place in our family. In my young mind, each member
had a special niche.
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My brother, Bill, five years my senior, was my example. Fran, my younger sister, gave me
an opportunity to play 'big brother' and develop the art of teasing. My parents were
complementary instructors - Mom taught me to love the Word of God, and Dad taught me to
But, the stranger was our storyteller. He could weave the most fascinating tales. Adventures,
mysteries and comedies were daily conversations. He could hold our whole family spell-bound for
hours each evening. If I wanted to know about politics, history, or science, he knew it all.
He knew about the past, understood the present, and seemingly could predict the future.
The pictures he could draw were so lifelike that I would often laugh or cry.
He was like a friend to the whole family. He took Dad, Bill and me to our first
major league baseball game. He was always encouraging us to see the movies and he even
made arrangements to introduce us to several movie stars. My brother and I were deeply
impressed by John Wayne in particular.
The stranger was an incessant talker. Dad didn't seem to mind - but sometimes Mom would
quietly get up - while the rest of us were enthralled with one of his stories of faraway
places - go to her room, read her Bible and pray. I wonder now if she ever prayed that
the stranger would leave.
You see, my dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions. But, this stranger
never felt obligation to honor them. Profanity, for example, was not allowed in our house
- not from us, from our friends, or adults. Our longtime visitor, however, used occasional
four-letter words that burned my ears and made Dad squirm. To my knowledge the stranger
was never confronted.
My dad was a teetotaler who didn't permit alcohol in his home - not even for cooking. But the stranger felt like we needed exposure and enlightened us to other ways of life. He offered us beer and other alcoholic beverages often.
He made cigarettes look tasty, cigars manly, and pipes distinguished.
He talked freely (probably too much too freely) about sex. His comments were sometimes blatant, sometimes suggestive, and generally embarrassing. I know now that my early concepts of the man-woman relationship were influenced by the stranger.
As I look back, I believe it was the grace of God that the stranger did not influence us
more. Time after time he opposed the values of my parents. Yet he was seldom rebuked and
never asked to leave.
More than thirty years have passed since the stranger moved in with the young family on Morningside Drive. He is not nearly so intriguing to my Dad as he was in those early years.
But, if you were to walk into my parents' den today, you would still see him sitting over in a corner, waiting for someone to listen to him talk and look at his pictures.
We always just called him T.V.
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